So I'm trying to convince my girlfriend that having anal sex will be a pleasurable experience if done properly, right now she's borderline and could go either way and i dont want to screw it up cause i know i won't get an opportunity like this again so if they're are any women out there who will admit to it could you please put a responce up because i know if another women enjoys it (tolerates it) then it would mean alot to hear, i plan on showing her this post
good luck bro
Start off easy with her - don't rush right into anal sex. You can start with a finger while you're stimulating her clitoris - she will probably find that she will have an orgasm extremely easy like that. There is such a stigma attached to anal sex with women - women can be scared about that area and rightfully so. You just have to ease her into the situation to where she is asking you for anal sex - not where you are pressuring her into it. Good luck but hopefully she can get used to the idea and then she will see for herself that it can be a very enjoyable experience.
thanx for the reply's !! keep em comin
tell her to lean forward if it hurts...........the more she leans forward the less it hurts, and dont put it in all the way. Most girls tell me you have to work upto a tolerance.
Why would anyone want to have anal sex? I dont understand why go there when you have a perfectly good place allready. I understand if you are gay, since all guys wanna fuck regardless of their sexual orientation. But whats the fascination with anal sex with women? I dont understand!! It's one thing to be curious, but why are some guys always DYING to try it? seems strange.
Dude, I am no expert I can only tell you my experience.. firstly let me congratulate you on having a g/f that will even consider the remote possibility.. now this news flash: dont phuck it up!! My G/F had done it before and did not care for it.. but.. she wanted to please me and since I hadnt had a G/F let me even try it, she went for it.. now I can have it anytime I want it.. I basically made sure of the following.. 1) that she knew that if she didnt dig it, I'd stop..no questions asked..respect her limits.. that will make her feel comfortable (well more anyway) about taking it in the tailpipe.. 2) That WE were well lubed with some slippery goo.. I used WET..there are other lubes that work but stay away from the flavored (imho) as they are sticky ..Anal Ease also works.. 3) Go slow..it takes a bit on your part to get it in..getting passed that sphincter muscle takes a bit..and she tells me that was the most uncomfortable part but once that is done it's alot better.. 4) dont worry about jamming it all the way in her..just go in a bit..ask her if it's ok, if she is hurting..if so ..stop..if she says she's ok..thats not a license to ream it..go easy.. this isn't going to be like Asses of Fire or Asses of Mass Destruction..forget the porn industry for a sec and respect your g/f's feelings.. 5) Talk about this act prior to doing it so you and she can set the boundries and have understanding prior.. 6) No matter how it goes dude thank her for letting you go there..for being open to it..alot arent even open to it..and if she thinks you appreciate HER you may even get it again.. 7) GO SLOW 8) Take massive pics and show us all.. j/k!! Good luck and hope it goes well for the *both* of you..
anal sex if done properly can be very enjoyable and orgasmic.... best thing to do is to start off getting her used to and enjoying being stimulated there...ie: your mouth when you're going down on her and using your finger while she's very lubricated and inserting while pe rforming oral on her.....when she's used to being touched there and used to your fingers pleasuring her that way....start off w/ a nice bottle of wine, candle lite (mood always helps) and warm massage oil...give her a really sexy relaxing massage....using your hands, your mouth...I'm sure you don't need specific details....when she's really relaxed....if you can use the missionary position.....and a lot of lubrication...once you've gotten past the spinctor muscle and are in...STOP! and don't move right away giving her a chance to get used to feel ing you inside her....w/ the mis sionary position she's got more of the control on how deep/fast you can go/move....then very slowly...gently when she's ready....move....short, slow strokes... before you know it she'll ask you for it good luck *smile* Cutie
Originally posted by guysd80 Why would anyone want to have anal sex? I dont understand why go there when you have a perfectly good place allready. I understand if you are gay, since all guys wanna fuck regardless of their sexual orientation. But whats the fascination with anal sex with women? I dont understand!! It's one thing to be curious, but why are some guys always DYING to try it? seems strange. It's diffrent, out of the ordinary, and it's considered Taboo by some.. might be their fetish.. your fetish isnt their fetish..just because you dont understand it doesnt make it any less valid..I mean, I dont get the whole foot fetish thing but hey, whatever.. one thing Dennis Miller once said.. "There is nothing less important than YOUR orgasm and nothing more important than MY orgasm"..
I think it's usual best to start with a finger rather than oral - most girls are very self conscious at first, even though all I have been with love oral on their ass. When you're going down on her and she is getting very wet start to go down on her and turn her on her side and put her outer leg over your shoulder, use your finger tip to stroke across her ass really lightly, lightly brushing over and circling it. After a while of this, use your pinky finger wet with her come or some lube and circle her ass gain, gently dabbing at her butthole when her cheeks are spread. Move onto pushing slightly, but not going in and grind the fingertip round and round in time to your tongue on her clit. After a while of this with her ass and your finger really lubed up and her almost at orgasm, put your fingertip in very slowly about 1/4" stop for a while, kissing at her clit every couple of seconds to keep her close to orgasm, then slowly put in the rest of your finger once u have felt her ass relax. Once you're in her ass start going down on her again slowly, building up, don't move your finger yet. As you build the oral back up start to move your finger - hardly at all, and a kind of grinding circular motion, not in and out, build this up in time to the oral, and as she starts to get to very close to orgasm make the circular grinding a bit deeper and in time Stop before she comes keeping your finger in her ass. Then ask if you can have butt sex. After that follow the advice of the other folks!! ID Millenium is a great lube for butt sex too
Damn some good info if I ever needed help with this particular matter-but yeah bro good luck!!
if a guy licks my kitty for about 4 minutes he can do anything down there and i have an orgasm. you have to get her turned on 1st. it's like stretching in ballet class. insert a little deeper each day. it should take over 3 days to get it all the way in. anal lube makes it easy to get a large object in a small hole. the anus is 1" away from the vagina. when a guy does it in my bum, i feel it in my vagina. i can feel it moving, in my vagina. you or her should massage her clit while doing it. put lube on her clit before you massage it. put some lube on the outside of her anus, so it slides in easier. put lube on your package and spread it all over. 7% of women do anal sex according to the kinsey sex survey. there's all kinds of nerves back there. let us know how you make out.
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Originally posted by guysd80 Why would anyone want to have anal sex? I dont understand why go there when you have a perfectly good place allready. I understand if you are gay, since all guys wanna fuck regardless of their sexual orientation. But whats the fascination with anal sex with women? I dont understand!! It's one thing to be curious, but why are some guys always DYING to try it? seems strange. i like kinky, taboo things. the idea of it turns me on.